Whether you are a goal setter or a manifestation guru, getting what you want requires a few key things.
The first, and perhaps most important, would be - allowing. If you are someone that lives within your mind, which would be most humans that do not dedicate their lives to being monks, then you may struggle with allowing and accepting. Our minds like to have control; they prefer to run the show known as your life. This control demonstrates itself as an attachment to a specific outcome. This attachment can cause overthinking or create distress, concern, or worry. If you are attached to the outcome, you may fret about your loss if you do not attain it. However, when you have no attachment to the outcome and instead focus on the process and enjoy the journey, you will no longer need to stress. Your value and self-worth are not dependent upon attaining a specific (and sometimes impossible) outcome. You have value and self-worth outside of your accomplishments, and you know that you innately have value and self-worth, no matter what you do or don’t do. When you release this attachment and desire for control over life, you allow for more beautiful things to enter, perhaps more beautiful than you could have imagined. Being flexible with the outcome, not holding attachments to it, and releasing tight control from the mind will allow for the perfect and sometimes unexpected result to come to you.
The second important thing I would like to mention is your language around your goals and wants. Lower on the spectrum of inspiration would be the language of “I ought to,” “I should,” and “I must” as we raise the alignment of our internal soul self to our physical reality, we naturally shift this language to a high frequency. We may begin saying things like “I want to,” “I like to,” and “I love to.” However, this language shift can only occur when we truly live for ourselves, not others. If you are living with someone else’s values and goals in mind, you will not feel as inspired as you would living for your own purposes and goals. Suppose you are living for someone you know, or you are living based on what you think you ought to do based on societal conditioning. In that case, you will likely set goals that are not in alignment for you, and you will often fall short of attaining them, or you may achieve them but feel no excitement or relief once you do. So, getting clear on what you honestly would like is essential. Listen for the subtleties of your language. Are you saying things like “I should,” or are you speaking from an inspired place of being, using words like “I love to.”
The last piece of advice I would like to leave you with is to turn inward and ask yourself - Do you believe you are worthy of what you wish for? Do you allow yourself to desire? Or is an internal conflict, limiting belief, or general self-doubt holding you back?